I left home at a very young age, around ten. For a few reasons, one, being my not being religious in a very religious family. I am an atheist from a very devout Christian family. Another reason was my sexuality, I am a pansexual and them being religious were completely against that.
It was after leaving home when I found the B.D.S.M. lifestyle. A friend was already in the lifestyle and my interest in it increased greatly.
From the time I left him home, I was trained for the next three years by three Masters, two doms, two Mistresses and one Domme. It first started out with them giving me books on B.D.S.M. to read and manuals on how to do certain kinks.
I read all of the stuff given, until after several months they started allowing me to be their assistant as far as setting up rooms for them, putting stuff together for them, and things of that nature. In response to this, they would allow me to view the kinks and take part in it at times. I was never subservient so it would prove useless for them to try and make me submit… that was not happening.
This time of reading, observing and helping took the least amount of physical work and yet the most mental work. Allowing me to learn the correct way to tie knots where as it is tight enough to keep secure, yet not so tight as to stop blood circulation. Tight enough to inflict pain, if needed, yet not tight enough to inflict permanent damage;
Always remembering the rules, always to remain safe, sane and consensual; what this mean is never to enter a kink under any drugs, alcohol etc, always make sure both you and your play partner are of a level head. Always be safe, do not try and do a kink if you are not well experienced in it, especially if the kink could endanger your partner’s life. If you are not experienced in a kink, there are plenty of places online, and many BDSM groups online that you can learn about whatever kink you are trying. And most important is consensual; not forcing your partner into doing something they are not comfortable with. [I am not speaking of rough play, as a sadist, I like rough play… I mean actually forcing them into things they do not wish to do]
With this, outside of simply Safe, Sane, Consensual or SSC in the lifestyle, I also practice RACK or Risk Awareness Consensual Kink. These are things like hanging bondage, fire play, sadistic "torture" scenes of controlled breathing, drownings, rape-play, etc. Things at which if done improperly can lead to permanent damage or something worse but that both parties agree to do.
After reading the books, and attending many BDSM meetings, I learned many things. I learned to be knowledgeable in a wide array of kinks, and fetishes. I learned patience, this is one of the most important traits of a Master to me. If your sub, slave, pet, slut whatever is not experienced in a kink, it is a Master’s job to teach them. Teaching is not always just DO THIS NOW!! Sometimes it may take finding someone doing the kink on a website, showing what is expected, letting them try it. No slave, slut whatever, no matter how subservient they are, no matter how devoted they are, none of them will get every single kink and fetish right on the first time if they have never even heard of it.
Being a master is about a mutual respect, you respect your sub for their submission and they will grow to trust and respect your dominance.
The next stage of my training with these Masters and Mistresses told me was net training. They said for me to start it would be good for me to hone my dominate skills by getting a net pet. It was during this time that I started using yahoo groups, [because I was too young during that time to join BDSM websites which are 18+ sites]. I found several men and women where the idea of being dominated by a young person actually turned them on. They knew I would not be getting on cam for them, for it was not my job to please them, it was their job to do as they were told and please me.
I found several older women who were old enough to be my mother, but they did not appeal to me, I preferred women in their 20s and 30s during that time. And always preferred men in their teens and 20s [remember I was only in my early teens] After dominating them on webcam, making them make me signature pictures [where they put your name on a piece of paper… then I just went by Master Edward, so that is what they put]
After training older subs and slaves, I then went into teen chat rooms and to my surprise there actually kids my age who were also into kink…and more willing to engage in it with someone around their age. For people around my age, I did not mind going on cam then. Though the rules were still the same, it was not about sexual pleasure, it was about submission. I can tell some of them were just use to fake Masters who just wanted them to get on cam and masturbate. I got no pleasure from that… instead, it was all about the kinks, spankings, clamps, etc.
After a few months of this, I had a consistent amount of eight subs and slaves online, male, female, older and younger…and they all knew their dates and times that they were to online for their training.
The whole point of this part of my exercise was, if I cannot dominate someone online, on a webcam how would I ever then dominate someone in front of me asking to be trained… At first, I was skeptical of it actually working. But after that, I did feel much more confident in my abilities both on and offline.
The next stage of my training was grunge work, while I was far too young to be at BDSM events, I was allowed to go to them before they started, help set up machines, help clean and dust off some of the stuff to see exactly how they worked, and at times I would be in a back room during watching from a two-way mirror at what was going on.
It was only a few months of that until the next part of the training started, my favorite part of that time. Where I had real life subs willing to submit to a younger person. To my surprise, there were many hot eighteen to twenties age range who found the idea of submitting to someone even younger a turn on. I trained them in a wide array of kinks, and because of all of my past teachings, I knew exactly what I was doing.
The first person who submitted to me was this very attractive twenty-six-year-old who was very new to the lifestyle. It was a bit interesting that with my training I knew a lot more than he. I tied him up and used several wooden paddles on his ass leaving red marks, since this was also training and I remembered the books, I always knew to never just continuously hit the same body part over and over without a few seconds of rest in between. I also took a small dildo and had put it in his ass …after some more kink we were done and he and I took a photo together and he left… when I started out early I use to keep a scrap book of all of those that I trained but after a fire a few years ago where I lost everything, I have stopped.
The next person who submitted was an eighteen female and she was very much into degradation and bondage. This was perfect for me since I am a sadist at heart, I love degradation, mental and physical pain and all of that stuff. So I tied her up tight and would degrade her by calling her names, and also made her eat out of a dog bowl and drink from a dog bowl… she did as she was told and each time she showed hesitation her ass was spanked… after that session as with the previous one we took a photo together and on good terms.
It is important to know the limits of anyone you are training. Which is why before everyone I train I always make sure that I find out their limits, soft, medium and hard limits. As well as ask about non-BDSM stuff as well, because sometimes if you know what they like non-kink…it can sometimes become very fun. Such as if you find out they enjoy to read, then you could possibly role play geeky boy, and teacher or something like that.
This is most important IF YOU CANNOT HAVE FUN IN THE LIFESTYLE, THEN MAYBE THE LIFESTYLE IS NOT FOR YOU. IF YOU CANNOT TURN IT OFF, THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULD STEP BACK.
I often see Masters and Mistresses that are so embedded in the lifestyle that it becomes hard for them when not in BDSM settings, or surroundings to shut it off and relax. While I love having a good time, I love the lifestyle, I love the training and experience. I am not a slave to it, I know when it is time for kink and when it is time for non-kink fun.
The next time I met with another “pain slut” she got off on spankings, biting, needles, whatever inflicted pain she enjoyed it. Me having a bit of blood fetish, I enjoyed training her.
[AS WITH THE SAFE SANE CONSENSUAL PART: If you are ever doing any kinks involving blood, make sure you are experienced in them, make sure you know the human body so that you do not cut a vein, have first aid kits and also GET STD TESTING [HIV/AIDS especially]
Well during this I stuck very thin needles in her breast, and put clamps on her tits and vaginal area, without touching she started climaxing because of all of the pain, so since she is a masochist and was enjoying it … I think removed the pins and clamps, to teach her that while it is great if she enjoys it ultimately her goal as the sub is the pleasing her Master/Mistress or whoever would eventually get her…
Over the next couple of years, I trained nearly a hundred of other people. Learning a lot from all of the Masters, Mistresses, Doms and Dommes;
During these times, I trained many subs that wanted experience. Or that just wanted to hone their skills in certain kinks so that they would expand their repertoires. I very much enjoyed it and still today I still go to BDSM events and may train others in my spare time…which there is not much spare time currently since with two slaves and a pup living in my home, they occupy and get much of my attention. Though at times, I do Host others who are seeking training but the person must greatly interest me.
I have trained subs in literally over a hundred kinks, fetishes and other things. I have trained them from eye restriction, breathing control, mild and extreme bondage, degradation, humiliation and a wide array of other kinks that I am quite experienced in….which is a lot. While I have tried many kinks, there are just some kinks I do not even wish to try, these include but not limited to, scat, vomit. I have seen these kinks on videos, and I personally do not get aroused or turned on by them.
Since I said what I am not into, I will put what I am into the most;
Role playing, I do play teacher/student, Master/slave, Stranger/Stranger, Doctor/Patient etc.
Bondage, this is one of my favorite things to do, I love tying up males and females, and having them in that helpless position. With either rope or cuffs.
Orgasm control/denial, I enjoy saying when my sub can cum...and cannot cum. This is, to me one of the ultimate submissive enjoyments, to have their orgasms completely under the control of another. With the use of a chastity device makes this even more fun.
… that is a small bit of my many interesting kinks I enjoy.
As far as fetishes;
I have a foot fetish, I like when a person can keep their feet clean and free from any corns, bunions, and things like that.
I have a spanking fetish, which could also fall under kink.
I have a big gas mask fetish, so seeing someone with gas mask pics, especially in all leather is just very appealing to me.
As mentioned above…sissification, so anyone who can cross dress, [but they must look feminine …because if they still look manly when crossdressing it does not turn me on at all… sorry]
As far as preference, while I am a pansexual, I do generally find myself more attracted to males, especially twinks. I enjoy it, even more, when the males are feminine males who are into sissification, meaning cross-dressing or being very feminine. I sort of like when they can bridge roles and not fit into the general male masculine, female feminine roles. So a feminine male is very much a turn on to me….the slave that has been with me the longest, slave Stephen is a very feminine male and perhaps why he is the one most often used for my sexual gratification.
slave razhe is my masochistic slave, she has a very high pain tolerance, and into a wide array of pain fetishes and kinks which allow for better sessions for my sadistic nature to enjoy her and use her more in sessions than anyone else.
pup Andrew is the last to join the house but is very obedient and one at which is very obedient and does what he is told. has virtually no limits and good at the end of the day to lift up the mood for everyone else.
Other stuff:
I am dominant only, I do not submit to anyone at any time.
I have several things that I would be described as. When it comes to my slave Stephen I would seem more as a “daddy dom” this is someone who while is still the dominant partner in the relationship. It is not just about domination and submission. It is also about caring for the person, nurturing them, and caring about them. But also still his Master, and over the years has grown in his knowledge of kinks and fetishes far beyond where he started.
When it comes to slave Razhe, my masochistic pain-slut, this relationship is total Master/slave, while when you are with any slave long-term their issues at times become yours. Everyone is human, so they will go through things and you adjust for that - be they family troubles or whatever.
With pup Andrew and pup Danny, I am both Master and Handler, enjoying the local pup scenes which is generally rather different than simply the BDSM events that we also enjoy together.
I see many Masters are afraid or just refuse to admit they have feeling to say that it weakens them, I am not ashamed of my feelings, I am human. I think my ability to be in touch with my feelings is what makes me a better Master and teacher. For I take the time to train, explain, … TEACH and not just DO THIS… THAT!!..
Though I am also a sadist and very serious in that role, you have to know when to simply get your own ego out of it, and understand not all time is "play time".
I do not try to fit what one thinks of as a Master, I never have and when asked I often say there is no one mold for what makes a Master.. every relationship, be they vanilla or kink related is different and there is no one mold.
I personally do not believe that there is one mold for a “Master” I think that all involves the people involved. If it works for them, then that is all that matters. Do not let another define what your relationship is just because you may do things differently, and never, and I mean NEVER stay the same. The lifestyle is about growing and changing, learning with each other.
I will give one example of why you should never allow others in your relationship. I had a Dominant friend who was a great cook, had no problem with cooking for his sub and things like that. He and his sub/girlfriend were together for three years. Yet he let some other Dominant man who was a friend of his get it in his head that cooking is the sub's job and that by her not doing it mean she was not committed… this caused problems between him and his sub until they broke up since he tried to change the way he was to suit the way the other dominant guy was.
NEVER change who you are, yet always constantly change. I hope that makes sense. Sure, you can change as you learn and grow, yet never change what you value at the core. I enjoy cooking at times, so if I wanted to cook and the person happens to be a sub, so what. This is touching back on what I said earlier about knowing when to “cut it off”. I know I am a Master, I know I am dominant… I know I am not subservient type, nor do I see doing something you enjoy doing as being subservient. If you want to cook for your sub, do so. If you and your sub have jobs, and you happen to get home a bit early and want to get the kids ready for bed and all of that do so… I don’t like when I see some people so stuck in their “roles” of the lifestyle that it seems to have become more work than play.
Okay, I guess that is all I have to say. I touched back all the way from when I left home, until now. I will admit that as a child, when they gave me all of that stuff, I was naive and was like what does reading have to do with kink and all of that child stuff, but now that I am older I am glad that they took the time to show me that the lifestyle is much more than just kink, but is about the relationships.
[On a non-kink related subject - since I know I will be asked, I would say my family and I are on much better terms than we were when I left home]